A lot of us live life in our own little bubble, conforming to the world around us, trying to fit into our surroundings when we should make our surroundings fit us. Imagine knowing the day you die ten years from now, would you really care all that much about your social media accounts or the job you hold for that matter? Would you reevaluate the people around you and what’s important to you or would you continue on your current path? I would bet you would make quite a few changes.
Life brings on a whole other meaning when you come to the realization that we all will one day take our last breath. Most people live life pretending that aspect does not exist because it reveals to us our mortality, and to be quite honest it’s just plain scary to think about. As scary as it is to think about I think it’s important to come to terms with that part of life and allow yourself to properly reflect, evaluate, plan, and take action in all aspects of your life wheel (family, friends, love, career, etc.)when you look at it through the spectrum that tomorrow is never guaranteed. Take Steve Jobs last words to the world before he died:
“I have come to the pinnacle of success in business. In the eyes of others, my life has been the symbol of success. However, apart from work, I have little joy. Finally, my wealth is simply a fact to which I am accustomed. At this time, lying on the hospital bed and remembering all my life, I realize that all the accolades and riches of which I was once so proud, have become insignificant with my imminent death. In the dark, when I look at green lights, of the equipment for artificial respiration and feel the buzz of their mechanical sounds, I can feel the breath of my approaching death looming over me. Only now do I understand that once you accumulate enough money for the rest of your life, you have to pursue objectives that are not related to wealth. It should be something more important: For example, stories of love, art, dreams of my childhood.”
Like Steve Jobs, most of us really don’t know what’s most important to us. All his life he was driven by his visions and ambitions for his company, Apple. And through that, he attained wealth and celebrity that we all could only dream of attaining. He allowed his career to consume all aspects of his life wheel, forgetting that we as humans are never truly whole unless every part of family, love, friends, career, personal development, health, and spirituality are balanced with one another. It took the harsh reality of his impending death to come to the realization that wealth and success were not most important to him.
As we live life and experience its successes and failures, we evolve and need to consistently reevaluate our life wheels. Yes, at one point his career and attaining wealth took precedent rightfully. But once he attained it all, he forgot to slow down and reevaluate his life wheel, something we all should do consistently in the pursuit of happiness.
“No, stop pursuing wealth, it can only make a person into a twisted being, just like me. God has made us one way, we can feel the love in the heart of each of us, and not illusions built by fame or money, like I made in my life, I cannot take them with me. I can only take with me the memories that were strengthened by love. This is the true wealth that will follow you; will accompany you, he will give strength and light to go ahead.”
This portion of his last words really speaks to the heart of societies problems today. Social media has created an era of the “Fake Persona”, most people seem to portray a lifestyle and persona on social media that is not who they are, living their lives through it and forgetting who they are in the process, and for what? For likes and appreciation from people, they don’t know? To become social media celebrities, selling their individualism for a quick dollar? Stay true to yourself, that’s when you will find true love and appreciation. Real friendships are made through human interaction not online through social media, those can go just as quickly as they came. Like I stated in my post “Living Life Through Your Social Media Accounts” if you want to use social media to make money, go ahead, but remember to separate the real you from the alter ego.
“Love can travel thousands of miles and so life has no limits. Move to where you want to go. Strive to reach the goals you want to achieve. Everything is in your heart and in your hands.”
“What is the world’s most expensive bed? The hospital bed. You, if you have money, you can hire someone to drive your car, but you cannot hire someone to take your illness that is killing you.”
“Material things lost can be found. But one thing you can never find when you lose: life. Whatever stage of life where we are right now, at the end we will have to face the day when the curtain falls. Please treasure your family love, love for your spouse, love for your friends… Treat everyone well and stay friendly with your neighbors.”
The final words from a great man, Steve Jobs, is all about living life to the fullest and having no regrets when it’s all said and done. Life moves so fast, slow down, evaluate your past, understand your present, and look towards the future. Reflect on your life wheel, where are you most or least satisfied? And with the understanding that life isn’t forever, evaluate the changes needed to be made and their effect on your life, plan, and move forward toward your happiness with no regret.
The majority of us don’t enjoy the career path we’re on, only 20% of us set goals, and of those 20% only 27% follow through. We allow ourselves to be distracted by the world around us, trying to fit into societies idea of who we should be instead of being ourselves. Organize your life wheel and goals, become the person you want to be, and heed the word of a great man that seemed to have everything, but realized as he laid dying he missed out on so much. Truly live life for yourself, so when you’re taking in those last breaths, your thoughts are not of regret and darkness, but full of light and happiness knowing you experienced all life had to offer.